Saturday, August 2, 2008

Bittersweet Birthday

I celebrated my 29th birthday yesterday and was so fortunate to be surrounded by many of my family members and friends. My birthdays are not as cheerful and happy as they once were. In fact, the past three years my birthday has been surrounded by sadness and tears. No, not because I am getting older. But because we lost our dear Coral, my grandmother and one of my very best friends in 2005. My first 26 birthdays were shared with my grandmother. I miss her greatly and especially on our special day. Despite the tears, which have gotten to be less and less over the years, my birthday was perfect.

My day started with a visit to the Jordan School District where I had to get a birth certificate extension for Jack. I spent hours going through boxes and never could find his birth certificate, thus the extension. Anyways, the office was right by my brother Luke's house so we decided to drop in on him. He is always working so hard on his house and has done some amazing things. It is fun to see. We went outside and jumped on his trampoline. Jack hopped on that thing, said "Watch me!" and pretty much did a flip. And then he did it over and over. It was cool, I don't know why but he sure was braver than usual in that moment. Luke and I had a good old fashioned "butt war" on the tramp and even though I was certain that I could win him, I didn't, but had fun anyways. It was fun acting like a kid again and laughing as I was playing with my brother.

Chad's dad married the most wonderful woman and we are so thankful to have her in our family. Her name is Becky and she came down from Bountiful to take me to lunch. Becky is so cute. She showed up with balloons (embarrassing a little) and we ate at Kneaders. I love kneaders, especially the little key lime tarts they have for dessert! It was so good. Then she followed us home for a few minutes, checked out a picture of Ken's old girlfriend (is that supposed to be a secret?) and played a game with the boys. Oh, and she brought me a cute little cake. She made such an effort to make my birthday special, and she did a good job. Thank you Becky!

Just after Becky left, my dad and his great wife, Debbie showed up with a bag of goodies. They live in Hyrum, Utah and are farther away than we'd like them to be so I don't get to see them too often. They were so nice to come down. I love them and was so happy to see them that day.

Next was a trip to the cemetery. I wanted my grandma's grave to look nice on her special day, so we took flowers and balloons. This is the bittersweet birthday part. I did good and got all of my tears out at the cemetery and that allowed for me to go about the rest of my day happily. I miss her so much.

My grandpa and his new wife, Patsy live very close to the cemetery, so I just couldn't help but stop by and say hello. It was a quick visit, but a nice one as well. The boys played in the back yard and they had fun. They always love it there. Want to know the funny part? Grandpa didn't even remember that it was my birthday.

The boys and I met Chad at home. He had stopped and picked up a BBQ chicken pizza from The Pie. It was delicious! Just as we were about to start eating, my grandpa called and apologized for forgetting that it was my birthday. Hey, he finally remembered! We ate pizza, laid around for a few, and then we went outside in the back yard and set up our tent.

All summer I have wanted to have a camp out with the boys in the back yard. Something always comes up and we had not yet made it happen. Well, for my birthday, that is just what I wanted to do. Chad had to work the next morning, so he was not up for a camp out, but the boys were thrilled. We pumped up our comfy air mattress and made it up like a bed. We told scary stories with our flashlights. Jack was coming up with some awesome ones. One of them was about a Higglysquatch and hot lava. We were so sleepy that we quickly dozed off. Aside from the occasional noises outside that woke me up, and the kids literally sleeping on top of me, I slept pretty good and the boys did not have a problem sleeping out there at all.

My birthday was so nice. I am thankful for the family and friends who went out of their way to make this day special for me. Thanks to all of you. Thanks for the visits, phone calls, and messages. I love you all and am so grateful for you. Happy 29th birthday to me!

5 comments:

Amber said...

Erica, you look so fantastic! You totally do not look your 29 years....I on the other hand....
I am glad you had a great birthday! Your boys are adorable.

Linda said...

It sounds like you had a really fun birthday. I liked how you guys went camping in your back yard--I've never thought of that!

Anonymous said...

Happy Birthday Erica! You look wonderful! Not a day over 20...

Ashley said...

Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday to you... I won't sing the rest because Emily is looking at me like I have lost my mind :o) Hope you had a GREAT day, you totally deserve it!!!

torgyfamilyblog said...

wow you are old! i was thinking of your "bitter sweet" bithday a lot that day too. it use to be such a cool thing that you got to share your day with such a neat lady but it does put a damper on the day now. thanks for decorating her grave. i love you and am so glad to have you as a cousin. looks like you had a great day. and your hair looks like it is getting long!